Why did you choose domestic infant adoption over other adoption paths?

God made it abundantly clear. Our love for infant development and passion to teach and nurture run deep! We have siblings and cousins adopted through foster care, and we talked about that option too. We believe infant adoption directly saves lives, and it is clear to us this is where our calling lies.

Will you adopt a boy or girl?

We are open to either! We won't know the answer to this question until after we are linked with a birth mother, which could take months to 2 years to find.

Why is it so expensive?

We have a page explaining this further: "Why $35,000?"

Are you open to transracial adoption?

Yes! We are going through extra training and education in order to be prepared for transracial adoption. We trust our agency, AAI, to act in the best interest of the child, and God to lead this whole process, when it comes to placement. God has a special child to join our family, and this big extended family is ready to welcome them with open arms!

Any terms I should learn or avoid?

Thanks for asking! Here are some more adoption positive phrases to learn:

When talking about the birth parents, say "They chose an adoption plan for their child." Or, "She decided not to parent her child." We avoid saying, "gave up her child," "not to keep her child" and "unwanted child" whenever possible--these phrases can unintentionally make a child out to be an object that can just be discarded and that dishonors both the child and the birth mom! (Don't worry, we've made this mistake too--just work on changing it from here on out!)

Avoid using the phrase "real parent" or "real child" when referring to our adopted child's birth parents, or Esther vs. our child who will be adopted. Instead if a distinction is needed, say "birth mom" or our child's name!

For more suggestions, you can google "Adoption Positive Language" and learn more yourself!

When will you get a baby?

That's the question we're all excited about! Our home study takes 90 days to complete, and then if we've raised the first $16,000 then we can officially get in line to be shown to birth mothers! The entire process from start to finish usually takes on average 1 to 2 years.